Giving someone space means respecting their request for less contact. It does not mean ignoring the responsibilities you still share, and it should not be used as a way to make them anxious enough to come back.
Make the practical parts clear.
“Space” can mean different things to different people. If she is willing to clarify, ask a simple question: “How would you like us to handle the things we still need to coordinate?” You are looking for a workable arrangement, not an opening to debate the separation.
Children, household obligations, and existing commitments may still require communication. Keep those exchanges relevant and respectful.
Let a practical message stay practical.
“I can pick them up at 4 on Friday. Does that still work?” is a complete message. Adding “I wish you could see how hard I’m trying” turns a logistical exchange into a relationship conversation she may not have agreed to have.
If you need to discuss the relationship, ask whether she is open to setting aside time for it. Accept the answer without trying to force a different one.
Don’t make silence a performance.
There is a difference between stepping back and trying to be conspicuously unavailable. You don’t need to time your replies to create an impression, post photos to provoke jealousy, or recruit friends to report on her reactions.
Use the time for your own life. Make plans with friends because you want to see them. Keep your routine because it helps you function. The value should not depend on whether word gets back to her.
Expect uncertainty.
You may still wonder what she is thinking. A warm exchange may bring hope; a short reply may feel like rejection. Neither tells you the whole story.
Look for clear communication and consistent behavior over time. If the urge to check, contact, or interpret every interaction is taking over your day, talk it through with someone who can help you regain perspective.
A USEFUL QUESTION
“Am I sending this because something needs to be communicated, or because I want reassurance right now?”